1         My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you.

2         My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you.

3         Your struggle affects my serenity. My mental attention focuses on solving your problems / relieving your pain.

4         My mental attention is focused on you

5         My mental attention is focused on protecting you.

6         My mental attention is focused on manipulating you to do it my way

7         My self –esteem is boistered by solving your problems.

8         My self –esteem is boistered by relieving your pain.

9         My own hobbies/interests are put to one side. My time is spendt sharing your hobbies/interests.

10     Your clothing and personal appearance are dictated by my desire and I feel you are a reflection of me.

11     Your behaviour is dictated by my desires and I feel you are a reflection of me.

12     I am not aware of how I feel. I am aware of how you feel.

13     I am not aware of what I want- I ask what you want. I am not aware-I assume.

14     The dreams I have for my future are linked to you

15     My fear ofrejectio determines what I say or do.

16     My fear of your anger determines what I say or do.

17     I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship.

18     My social circle diminishes as I involve myself with you.

19     I put my values aside in order to connect with you.

20     I value your opinion and way of doing things more than my own.

21     The quality of my life is in relation to the quality of yours.